To be a slut or not to be a slut? This is the modern feminist question!
This month while taking a dive into the world of health, we embarked on a journey with Karley Sciortino as she opens up about her sex life in her confessional memoir, Slutever.
"Slut" is a great word. It just sounds perfect-so sharp and clear and beautiful. It's one of those satisfying four letter words, like cunt and fuck. Slut also happens to be an anagram for lust, which is one of those divine coincidences that makes you wonder if God actually exists.
Sharing the name of her increasingly popular blog and VICE show, Karley Sciortino bares all (yes in both the emotional and physical sense) in her first book, a memoir and hilariously truthful op ed on sluts, slut shaming, the post shame world and her sex life thus far. From losing her virginity to threesomes in rank squats in London to sugar baby days in NYC, she's truthful and honest in her depiction of what she's learnt in her years of being 'sexually active' per se. Karley shares some of her most memorable lessons learnt and those cringeworthy moments we all have in our own back catalogue. As all of us do, we don't learn it all in one take - it takes multiple partners, different situations and different approaches to learn more about ourselves through the act of sex.
She is a strong advocate for the word slut and seeks to disassociate the word with it's bad stigma and rather with a call to arms for the movement of open and honest sexuality and sexual activity. Everyone's doing it ya know - why should we feel ashamed of liking sex.
(Image of Karley from The Standard)
She shares insightful words on partners and deeply personal stories about mental abuse and the play on power in relationships from both sides both in a fun BDSM way and other times not called for. Through her explorations she passes on some words of wisdom and other times reiterates things you know but just need to be told again. One of my favourite quotes would have to be about finding a partner. "What turns you on?" Almost all women have the same answer. it goes something like this: "I'm turned on by someone who's smart, funny, well-dressed, creative, successful, blah blah blah. Sound suspect if you ask me.... I'm sorry but I just don't believe that anyone's ever come thinking about how their boyfriend is a good listener.
And don't be afraid to call yourself a SLUT